there's one just fixed static version and that that has some greater value than whatever you're putting out there now, and frankly, I call bullshit on that. I believe that the way that we show up in any situation could probably do with a lot less criticism than we give ourselves. You know quite often how to turn up in different situations, whether it's a work relationship, a friend relationship, in your family dynamics. There may be some relationships that you actually wan

I want to talk about shame and the far right. I want to talk about why you making the commitment to learning how to manage your emotions is gonna be essential over the next few years, as we are in such a political turbulent time. I think quite often self-care gets a bad rep as a bit of sort of navel-gazing indulgence for folk who have the time and money to be able to stare at themselves in the mirror and tell themselves that they love themselves 1,000 times.

Maybe you worked hard, maybe your kids are amazing, and possibly a pain sometimes. And maybe even you look at the people around you and think that your relationship isn't that bad, actually. Things could be a lot worse.

I think most of us have probably at least one friend within our circle who needs possibly more support than we can give, and in these wild times when so many of us are overstretched, it's important to try and work out how you can set boundaries that both protect your energy and protect the relationship.

I hear people say, "I don't think I'm very good at adulting." Underneath that is often the message, " I thought my life would look different to this." What are the markers of what would make a good adult life for you? Often what I hear coming up in coaching calls is being able to drive. Maybe it is some ideas that you have about your career or your financial goals.

I want to talk about shame and the far right. I want to talk about why you making the commitment to learning how to manage your emotions is gonna be essential over the next few years, as we are in such a political turbulent time. I think quite often self-care gets a bad rep as a bit of sort of navel-gazing indulgence for folk who have the time and money to be able to stare at themselves in the mirror and tell themselves that they love themselves 1,000 times.

when life throws the Lifey stuff at us, that we have tools that are useful for us to be able to recognise what's going on, process it and deal with it in a way that enables us to flow through it rather than to repeat our patterns that might not have served us in the past.

You're not meant to be sad about not having kids. You want to swallow your friends stories of how hard it is, or to have made very strong feminist choices about body autonomy. But I don't feel that.

Flutes and fun in the studio as Neigo popped in for a photoshoot before her flute workshop. I love taking creative portraits with people who bring the things which bring their passions to life.

There is a wild trick that our brain plays on us, and that is to convince us that when we loop in old thought patterns and we tell ourselves the same old story day in, day out, even when we know better that, it's some personal fault.

They fold and expand like a breath held. Like listening for a pin drop.

Letting go was the hardest thing I ever did. And I am sure it is a lesson it will still take me a lifetime to learn. But now that I see it for what it is, there is compassion mixed with freefall.

when life throws the Lifey stuff at us, that we have tools that are useful for us to be able to recognise what's going on, process it and deal with it in a way that enables us to flow through it rather than to repeat our patterns that might not have served us in the past.

don't think that a lot of people realise that this is perfectionism. I think that quite a lot of people think that perfectionism is getting everything right all of the time. And I think that perfectionism is kind of the opposite. Perfectionism in a way is a cute little shop front for procrastination.

The problem is that "just trust yourself" doesn't mean anything when no one ever taught you how. And in fact, most of us were actually socialised to do completely the opposite. We were mostly taught that we should not trust ourselves and that we should defer to everybody, else because they're more important, more knowledgeable, more skillful, probably have more authority than we do. And probably the last thing that we should actually do is to trust ourselves.

noticing where someone else's thoughts about you or someone else's choices backup something that you say to yourself, which feels like an old story that you're carrying, that probably isn't very kind, that feels perhaps a little bit mean or critical.

when life throws the Lifey stuff at us, that we have tools that are useful for us to be able to recognise what's going on, process it and deal with it in a way that enables us to flow through it rather than to repeat our patterns that might not have served us in the past.

I use this stuff in my everyday life so that you can see how this stuff can be useful for you in your everyday life. And just to try and get your brain on side so you're not at the mercy of these thoughts that we all have going on in our heads all the time that are really busy.

I use this stuff in my everyday life so that you can see how this stuff can be useful for you in your everyday life. And just to try and get your brain on side so you're not at the mercy of these thoughts that we all have going on in our heads all the time that are really busy.

I've noticed on coaching calls is that often people's relationship with money, is the same as their relationship with time. If these things are things that you struggle with in either areas of your life, this week's episode's gonna be one for you. Quite often when I speak to people, we are talking about scarcity. There is one particular theme that they look at and it is normally time or money. And I have noticed a theme that comes up repeatedly in many of the coachin