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HeardinLondon
Dec 6
What people pleasers won’t tell you
How rested they are How valued they feel How much they enjoy giving That last one may surprise you, because I think a lot of us would...
HeardinLondon
Jun 23
Perfectionism says: "Be the best"
Apart from when you’re not - perfectionism is not going to be on your side
There is such hype around trying to rise above the crowd that
HeardinLondon
May 8
People Pleasing - The secret way to make patriarchal socialisation actually useful
People pleasing is something you were taught, and maybe that not 100% bad
HeardinLondon
May 5
People Pleasers and Growing up English
I think the majority of people who grew up in England find people pleasing particularly difficult as we have so many unwritten rules about w
HeardinLondon
Jan 18
Controlling other people (and other myths)
When it comes to understanding and managing our own emotions, it's important to recognise we can't control other people's behaviour.
HeardinLondon
Dec 15, 2023
Throwing yourself under the bus for other people’s validation
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 62 Hi, my love. This is a compassionate message that you might want to save for an emergency. I...
HeardinLondon
Nov 21, 2023
Habit change, perfectionism and learning to feel familiar with your emotions
Many of us weave a good chunk of perfectionism into the idea of habit change, and there is a strong narrative that if we don't get things
HeardinLondon
Sep 3, 2023
What does people pleasing look like in your life?
the reality is that you don't have to identify as a people pleaser to still be behaving in a way which does not always have your best
HeardinLondon
Aug 27, 2023
You know what is wrong with people pleasers?
I know when I was spending all my time people pleasing, it was never enough. I never did enough nice things. I never felt safe in being li
HeardinLondon
Aug 25, 2023
Hidden Consequences of People Pleasing
people pleasing that we are socialised into, which is one of the main causes of people not speaking up against oppression.
HeardinLondon
Aug 23, 2023
People-Pleasing: The Silent Guardian of Power Structures
a pervasive culture of people-pleasing, one which often silences critical voices in the face of oppression. But it's high time we consider:
HeardinLondon
Aug 18, 2023
What People Pleasing is not
What people get out of my courses is the possibility that maybe we could take some of the pressure off right now so that we're not always lo
HeardinLondon
Apr 20, 2023
People pleasing is a common habit many of us struggle with...
The motivation to put others' needs before our own is motivated by the fear of potential rejection if we don't.
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