People Pleasing

Jun 23

Perfectionism says: "Be the best"

Apart from when you’re not - perfectionism is not going to be on your side There is such hype around trying to rise above the crowd that

May 8

People Pleasing - The secret way to make patriarchal socialisation actually useful

People pleasing is something you were taught, and maybe that not 100% bad

May 5

People Pleasers and Growing up English

I think the majority of people who grew up in England find people pleasing particularly difficult as we have so many unwritten rules about w

Jan 18

Controlling other people (and other myths)

When it comes to understanding and managing our own emotions, it's important to recognise we can't control other people's behaviour.

Dec 15, 2023

Throwing yourself under the bus for other people’s validation

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Nov 21, 2023

Habit change, perfectionism and learning to feel familiar with your emotions

Many of us weave a good chunk of perfectionism into the idea of habit change, and there is a strong narrative that if we don't get things

Sep 3, 2023

What does people pleasing look like in your life?

the reality is that you don't have to identify as a people pleaser to still be behaving in a way which does not always have your best

Aug 27, 2023

You know what is wrong with people pleasers?

I know when I was spending all my time people pleasing, it was never enough. I never did enough nice things. I never felt safe in being li

Aug 25, 2023

Hidden Consequences of People Pleasing

people pleasing that we are socialised into, which is one of the main causes of people not speaking up against oppression.

Aug 23, 2023

People-Pleasing: The Silent Guardian of Power Structures

a pervasive culture of people-pleasing, one which often silences critical voices in the face of oppression. But it's high time we consider:

Aug 18, 2023

What People Pleasing is not

What people get out of my courses is the possibility that maybe we could take some of the pressure off right now so that we're not always lo

Apr 20, 2023

People pleasing is a common habit many of us struggle with...

The motivation to put others' needs before our own is motivated by the fear of potential rejection if we don't.