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Mar 23, 2023

What is wrong with you?

Unconditional acceptance sounds like a radical idea which drips with fear of forbidden things like laziness and indulgence. But rather than

What failing at maths taught me about life

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Mar 22, 2023

What failing at maths taught me about life

Maths is a perfect example. I used to be terrified of numbers. Sometimes the pressure of absolute right or wrong clashed with the idea that

How to stop telling yourself you are not good enough

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Mar 21, 2023

How to stop telling yourself you are not good enough

A good way to begin is to become aware of your self-talk. Stop and pay attention to the words which run through your mind on a daily basis.

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Mar 18, 2023

Confidence vs Arrogance

Confidence is a belief in your capacity and abilities, and arrogance determines your worth by thinking you're better than others. Confidence

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Mar 17, 2023

What does confidence look like for you?

It's hard to build confidence for ourselves when we don't have a set definition of what that means.

What does emotional safety look like for you?

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Mar 14, 2023

What does emotional safety look like for you?

Most of life is not happy and peaceful. Most of my life is a complicated mix of feelings and often a lot of things simultaneously, and some

HeardinLondon

Mar 12, 2023

Have you been tricked or trapped?

Many of us have been socialised to make ourselves as small as possible so we're not an inconvenience. How many of us have been taught that

How to build confidence, one cup of tea at a time

HeardinLondon

Mar 11, 2023

How to build confidence, one cup of tea at a time

Where do you feel you need to perform perfectionism to give you confidence? It can feel like a tantalising lure, can’t it?

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Mar 10, 2023

A line in the sand

Have you created any New Year's resolutions that you were hoping to make a start on that you hadn't gotten around to yet? Or life took over

Why body image is probably not your problem

HeardinLondon

Mar 9, 2023

Why body image is probably not your problem

It took a lot of work on my body image, confidence, and past to acknowledge that I was trying to manipulate my body to stop predators.

Why insults hang around longer than compliments

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Mar 3, 2023

Why insults hang around longer than compliments

That's why you can have people remind you how loved you are, how brilliant you are, and how wonderful you are. Left, right and centre, but a

How to stop self-doubt drowning out everything else

HeardinLondon

Mar 1, 2023

How to stop self-doubt drowning out everything else

I know that it held me back in so many ways. I felt like I didn't have anything of value to offer, and I've often avoided taking risks or pu

HeardinLondon

Feb 24, 2023

How to be a body ally

How can you make your body feel more at home? What kind of things do you think someone who does feel like their body is an ally would be say

That person at work who just won't let you do your job and other work relationships

HeardinLondon

Feb 20, 2023

That person at work who just won't let you do your job and other work relationships

When people speak about their experience of this, what people talk about was their anger, the frustration and the arrogance of the other

Who is profiting from me feeling like this? Why comparison is a joy-thief

HeardinLondon

Feb 17, 2023

Who is profiting from me feeling like this? Why comparison is a joy-thief

one of the things I found helpful when I was doing this work in regards to my body image, which is something that, as someone who's lived a

I believe that self love is key to changing the world

HeardinLondon

Feb 12, 2023

I believe that self love is key to changing the world

The work you do on yourself impacts all of your relationships, and the level of compassion or criticism we show ourselves ripples out.

Separating fat from fiction (what we mean when we say "I feel fat")

HeardinLondon

Feb 9, 2023

Separating fat from fiction (what we mean when we say "I feel fat")

When we say, “I feel fat”, quite often, what we mean is that we feel bloated or uncomfortable or lethargic or sleepy or lazy or tired or

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Feb 9, 2023

How to heal a broken heart

We're taught and encouraged to cut people off, close our hearts, or walk away from someone. And I realised that a lot of the pain and suffer

I know I am meant to love myself, so why is it so hard to apply this to my body image?

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Feb 7, 2023

I know I am meant to love myself, so why is it so hard to apply this to my body image?

You're smart; you see how people being excluded does all an injustice. And yet… You just can't seem to apply this stuff to yourself.

Dissecting Food Morality: The Thin Line Between Diet Culture and Oppression

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Feb 5, 2023

Dissecting Food Morality: The Thin Line Between Diet Culture and Oppression

It also reinforces the harmful notion that our bodies are something to be controlled and manipulated rather than celebrated and respected.