What people with good boundaries won’t tell you:
Why your needs are way more important than theirs
All the reasons you need to understand their decisions
That it is a constant game of learning and adjusting.
You’ll find that people with strong boundaries don’t feel the need to explain themselves an awful lot – because they are rarely looking for your approval. They also understand it is a game of constant adjustment and course correction and that to have to explain that sometimes leads to a whole load of misunderstandings. Sometimes, you don’t need to show your whole hand. Especially if what you are holding is the knowledge that you’re going to get things wrong sometimes. And that you are ok with that.
Boundary setting isn’t a one-and-done thing. But deciding to stop overexplaining yourself can be.
If you’d like to know how to hold clear boundaries for yourself and others, The Better Boundaries Course is available as a self-study course here:
Or is one of over 30 courses and weekly group coaching sessions we have inside SelfCareSchool Membership.
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