In the most devastatingly simple way I know
You know that inner critic voices which can sometimes sounds SO loud?
The "You can't do it" voices, or the
"They don't like you" voices or the "You're not good enough" voices.
Want to know the most simple way I have ever found to get them to stop being too full of self-importance?
Start repeating what they just said in a stupid voice. Maybe it is high-pitched and squeaky. Maybe it is slow, like the voice of a rock from the muppets, or maybe you try and sing it back to yourself like a swing dance groove whilst clicking your fingers.
Can you feel the difference between re-reading the headline to this email and following it with “You're rubbish at maths” and then re-reading the headline and repeating “You're rubbish at maths” in the voice of someone who has just run away from a swarm of butterflies?
It sounds stupid. And it is. And so are the voices.
But they thrive on thinking you they are terribly serious and giving you ever so important life information. So when you get playful and see what it feels like in your body, if you repeat the phrase which only a moment ago was devastating, in the voice of Marge Simpson, you may find yourself able to notice that it's all a game of perspective.
That everso serious voice is not the “right” voice, or the “honest” voice or the “truthful” voice. It is just one voice. And when we decide how we are going to speak to ourselves, we magically also decide how we are going to treat ourselves too.
With this one simple brain hack, you can begin to tell a different story.
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