This blog could change your whole life.

How to create joyful change, without burning the whole thing down.

Indeed, this blog could change your whole life, and I'm not sure that's what most of us really want to do. I certainly don't want to upend everything and lose all sense of bearings. But there are definitely areas of my life that I'd like to work on. And I certainly don't think that throwing the baby out with the bathwater is the way for sustainable change.

What I have found is that rather than looking at life goals as massive overhauls, where I am trying to annihilate areas that I have not gotten right yet, are there any spaces that I could make more playful, more light, more joyful?  Where I can remove the heaviness, the obligation, the judgement? Or could places be stepping stones rather than criticism?

The problem many of us face is that when we set big life goals, is we often use this as an excuse to be critical about the life we have and what we've achieved. If you're busy telling yourself all the ways that you're getting things wrong, you brain is likely to trigger the alarm system and tell you that you're in danger. And from here the only thing your brain is looking for is ways to get you out of there and back to safety (hello old habits).

When you are able to look at ways that you could make things more (rather than disappear), it opens up the possibility for you to get creative and tune into what you actually want rather than what you need to survive.

It is from this place that we can access essential resources, in daily increments and the possibility of play.

If you're anything like most of us, you've probably been trained to criticise your way to self-improvement most of your life. And I'm not saying that this is wrong, but personally I just don't find it very effective.  We think if we lay off the bullying, it tantamount to taking the foot off the accelerator, and without this pressure, we stagnate. But what if the opposite was true? Would if kindness and joy were like taking the handbrake off and suddenly you realised that you were on a roll?

Whatever move you have to make next, when it comes to life decisions, it could be that a compassionate process could lead you to results you enjoy seeing (and achieving).

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